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The Truth About Friendship

4/2/2017

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About thirteen years ago, I moved to the Cincinnati area to begin my teaching career. I didn’t know a single person in Cincinnati, yet I felt called to move here….4.5 hours away from my family and friends. Pursuing your dreams sometimes will require you to do things you never expected.
 
For the first time, I was living on my own, in an unfamiliar place, and I didn’t know anyone. It was scary, but it was also exciting. I had a chance to make a fresh start. Being the new girl isn’t easy, though, especially when you’re an introvert like me. The more I took initiative, stepped outside my comfort zone and introduced myself to someone new, the easier it became. Before long, I quickly made many new friends.
 
But I soon realized that making friends is different than being a friend.
 
Social media wants us to believe that friendship is just a click away. With one click, we can become friends (which feels great), but just as easily, we can unfriend someone (which feels not so great).   
 
We are led to believe that our worth is linked to the number of friends/followers/likes we have.
 
We have hundreds or thousands of online friends and multiple social media accounts, yet struggle with loneliness. Why is this?
 
In her new book, Never Unfriended: The Secret to Finding and Keeping Lasting Friendships, Lisa-Jo Baker reminds us,
 
“You are necessary. You are not invisible. You are named and seen, and please don’t erase your relevance because you think you’re not relevant to the people you pass by on a screen.” (p.32-33)
 

The truth is, we were created for deep relationships. Our online interactions must be balanced with real-life connections.
 
You might quickly make a friend, but being a friend is intentional. It takes time. And it involves risk….especially if you’ve been hurt by a friend before (In her book, Lisa-Jo Baker shares about overcoming Friendship PTSD).     
 
Never Unfriended is a guide about how to create lasting friendships:
 
“So, what can you do to find safe, loving, engaged friends whom you can trust never to unfriend you? Become radically invested in the people around you. Take the initiative and become that kind of friend first.” (p.82-83)
 
I love this advice, and have found it to be true in my own life.
 
Lisa-Jo Baker shares that a lasting friend: encourages, forgives, assumes the best, celebrates, helps carry sadness, is trustworthy, and is willing to let others see his/her real self (including the messy moments). Most importantly, a lasting friend shows up….in the good times and the tough times.
 
She also talks about the importance of maintaining healthy boundaries and reminds us that no human will fill the craving our soul has for connection…only God can do that. 
 
If you’re looking for practical ways to develop deeper friendships, I would encourage you to read Never Unfriended.
 
Friendship is a valuable gift. Be a friend to someone today.  
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Miss Señora Maurice link
4/3/2017 05:06:49 pm

Hey Jewels!

Yes- I find that we are our own best friend. The spirit within, once we make friends with it, can be great to be around. Also, it´s handy since it´s always there.
I find that having a true friendship takes time and, like you say, dedication. Also, it´s easy to make friends. The true challenge is being a real friend to another.
Hugs and Love!
-Andrea

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Julie
4/3/2017 08:49:49 pm

Andrea, I'm so thankful that we have continued to keep in touch over the years. :)

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